A few months back, I had the unfortunate task of letting go of a client whom, well, quite simply, couldn’t be helped.
You know the type.
No matter how much time you devote to helping them, it will never be enough because at the end of the day, this person doesn’t really WANT to be helped.
This woman didn’t need a Buyer’s Agent, she needed a psychologist. And I say that with love and respect in my heart. I really do.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was not the fact that I had to jump through soooooo many hoops when it came to her property requirements, but the realisation that this person would probably NEVER find the right home. Not without a lot of kicking, screaming, arguing, abusive comments to my fellow agents and the likes anyhow.
AND IT WASN'T BECAUSE OF HER ENDLESS LIST OF REQUIREMENTS EITHER.
IT WAS HER ATTITUDE TOWARD THE WHOLE PROCESS.
The way we think and feel toward things has more power than what you might believe.
One more thing… it’s super CONTAGIOUS and spreads into all parts of your life, not just your situation at hand.
Ultimately, our attitude affects our relationships, our work, friendships, heck even taking the dog for a walk can be a mission if your attitude sucks.
IN SHORT, MY CLIENT’S ATTITUDE WAS SOMETHING TO BE SERIOUSLY QUESTIONED AND I SIMPLY WAS NOT GOING TO BUY INTO THE NEGATIVITY.
All the positives of the properties that seemingly fit her Brief somehow turned into negatives.
What a shame that all of this was keeping her from moving forward in life, and when I made the decision to walk away, I thought to myself, I hope she takes this experience as a sign to grow.
I MYSELF AM A HUGE BELIEVER IN HAVING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARD EVERYTHING.
Even the shittiest of shit things that crop up in your day to day; if you can focus on the positives, (yes there are always SOME), life somehow seems to readjust itself in your favour.
IT’S NOT WOO WOO STUFF. IT’S BASIC LAW OF ATTRACTION.
So what were the positives that I TOOK out of this situation with my client?
- I learned how to be more patient with people.
- I met some amazing new real estate agents whom I had not crossed paths with before which ALWAYS leaves the door open to new opportunities (and new deals).
- I learned more intimate details about suburbs in Brisbane that I had not previously looked into.
Now I’m no saint when it comes to holding your head high ALL THE TIME.
It’s not easy keeping a positive outlook on everything. It requires self discipline, awareness and practice to say the least.
BUT IT IS A CHOICE.
I don’t now where you’re at right now when it comes to this stuff, but it took me many years to reach this point in my life, especially when it came to dealing with people, to remain calm in the storm, look past the negatives of a situation and take FULL responsibility for the matter at hand, even if you believe in your heart of hearts that you’re not at fault or to blame for what’s happened.
Call it an awakening of some sort, but the moment I took responsibility for my station in life, the clients I was attracting and choosing to work with and ditched the blame game, things started to come together in ways far better than I’d ever imagined.
HERE WERE MY 8 SIGNS IT WAS TIME TO GROW:
- I realised my parents really weren’t to blame.
- The “fun”, go no where friends I had finally showed their true colours.
- I had two back to back failed relationships.
- I came across the quote “you always have a choice”.
- I had to toss a heap of McDonalds takeaway bags out of my car in front of a client.
- I realised it wasn’t my staff who were hurting the business.
- People younger than me were doing better than me.
- I was doing the walk of shame in my thirties.
I’m sure you’ve got some trigger points you can recall that screamed, what the heck am I doing with my life?!
We all need to be aware of these signs that are usually screaming at us to re-assess, to re-adjust and step up to the plate when it comes to being a better person.